It’s not easy for the modern gal to let a man lead.
Women today bring home the bacon, cook it up in the pan and have no problem asking men out. They are capable and competent. Ladies can successfully manage and control their own lives and careers, so letting anyone -other than their boss take charge is downright painful.
But men have no desire to woo a women who doesn’t need them. Dudes like to lead and they really like a woman who allows them to exercise this muscle.
But how does an assertive single woman let a man take the lead in dating?
According to Hayley and Michael Dimarco, authors of Cupidity some simple steps are all it takes:
- Letting Him Plan and Pay for Dates
By giving a guy some space to initiate, a woman may be doing herself a favor in the long run. Guys tend to get passive when women take over, so unless a woman wants to coordinate all of her dates in the future, allowing a guy to make reservations and plan their outings benefits her too.
- Let Him Control the Speed of the Relationship
Unless a guy is proposing on the third date, let him set the pace so you can relax and enjoy the ride of getting to know each other. Occasionally, a DTR(T) talk may be necessary (define the relationship-timeframe) if it’s been over a year of dating, or a quick pump of the brakes if he ‘s moving too fast…but generally speaking, let the guy keep his foot on the pedal and don’t be a backseat driver.
- Let Him Get the Door
What? Is opening the door a big deal? Well, in a way…yes! Letting a guy feel useful and necessary in the little things can pay big dividends in the overall relationship. Men have a protective instinct. Allow them to use it.
These are some small tips to allow a guy to take the lead when dating.
What do you think?
